After having my genetic consultation with Reprogenetics the other day, I realized that the embryo testing results will also reveal the gender — XX or XY. Whoa!
When I shared this news with my infertility friends, I got mixed responses. Some that said they wouldn’t want to know and some said they thought it was super cool.
Erick and I have decided that we think it’s pretty cool. To me, it’s something pretty much nobody else gets to know this early, so it’s something special for us. Sort of an added benefit and since nothing else about this whole process even remotely resembles a benefit, we embrace it.
My surrogate, on the other hand, does not want to know. She feels that this information would make it harder for her if she didn’t get pregnant or were to miscarry. We completely understand her feelings.
But, for us, a loss is a loss. It would be hard no matter what. If we knew the gender, it would be the most information we’ve ever had for any of our babies and we’ll take it.
Now, will we actually select a gender? Doubtful. We will feel lucky if we end up with one normal, healthy embryo to transfer. Beyond that, I have no idea. If we have several normals to select from, we will take the embryologist’s advice on which one looks the best.
It’s weird to find myself possibly in this situation right now because a month or so ago when I was interviewed for an infertility segment on HuffPost LIVE, the topic of gender selection came up. My colleague Jen and I were both perplexed as to why this was being brought up in the context of infertility because it really has nothing to do with infertility. Gender selection is something that rich people do to have designer babies. Infertility patients don’t care. We just want a healthy baby.
So, now it’s interesting that we’ll have this information. But, we are NOT testing the embryos for this purpose. We are testing to find the euploid (normal) embryos and this is just an added piece of information. One that we’ve decided to embrace given all of our troubles.