Infertility, Our Infertility story, Surrogacy

We found a surrogate!

March 7, 2012

I can’t believe I’m saying this, but not only did we find a gestational surrogate, but we are preparing to get started with the process immediately.

The surrogate contacted our clinic and my IVF nurse put us in touch.  I called her and immediately had a great feeling about her.  We discussed everything and we are on the same page. I cried several times and couldn’t even say goodbye properly because I was weeping.  She is ideal for us.  She has insurance, she lives near our clinic, she is healthy.  And, most of all, she’s so nice and such a cool person. And, if that wasn’t enough, her husband is awesome, too.  He supports her 100%.  They have five beautiful children themselves.

We feel so incredibly lucky that we connected and we feel that this was the answer to our prayers.

We went to meet them this past weekend and I was so nervous.  What do you say to the person who will possibly bear your child?  But, I had no reason to be nervous because they are so nice.  We talked easily and enjoyed hanging out with them.

My first question to her was, “What on earth possessed you to want to do this?”  She said, that she had several friends that experienced infertility.  She had offered to do this for them, but ultimately they were successful on their own.  So, she thought, why not do this for someone else? She thought it would be amazing to help someone have a child, knowing how blessed she was to have five.  And, she was waiting for the right situation and the right people.

WOW! What an amazing, selfless person. I am so amazed by her.

We are absolutely thrilled.  At first, we were hesitant with our feelings, but we thrown caution to the wind and have made the choice to be happy and celebrate this major milestone. Erick and I both are truly excited and feeling blessed right now. We have been thinking about surrogacy and praying about it for a while.  We have had a few possible situations that didn’t end up working out and we’ve still been pursuing adoption.  We were really feeling torn about which way to go. Now, we feel certain that this is our path, at least for the time being.  We are so thankful to God for this amazing opportunity.

So what’s next? Medical tests, counseling, hammering out a legal agreement and then we can get started. We are hoping that all of that will go smoothly.

If you know me in real life, please keep this quiet, as I’m not ready for everyone to know just yet.  (It’s hard for me to share good news, coincidentally.)


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  • ebc

    YAY! This is so exciting! I can feel the relief and excitement and hope you have through your post. Can’t wait to continue following this new road of your journey!

  • That is SO exciting! And I’m so glad you are able to celebrate this amazing milestone. Can’t wait to hear more.

  • Jay

    This is so awesome!!! Keeping fingers, toes and everything crossed for you Whitney.

  • Oh WOW, this is great news! I’m with EBC, I can’t wait to follow this new journey!

  • jaclyn

    Good luck! I’m so happy for you both!

  • WOW! I got goose bumps reading this. I’m so happy for y’all. And I’m glad that I can specifically pray for a healthy pregnancy for your surrogate.

  • lostonthemountains

    Yay! Praying for a smooth processing of all the prep work and a healthy pregnancy.

  • Nataly

    You are always in my thoughts… I am so happy for you!

  • jess

    This feels right, this feels like the path for you. (To me, but I am no psychic.) Embrace it, and feel joy for once. I need to work on that one myself! (I also incidentally have trouble sharing good news.) Much love to you my friend. I am so happy for you!

  • Amazing! That’s such wonderful news!

  • Amy

    So happy to read this!

  • Gil

    Fantastic news! How amazing is this!!! YAY!

  • Connie

    O Whitney, I am so happy for you! When I read this I was covered in goose-bumps and had tears in my eyes! I pray that the Lord will continue to bless you two and that things will go smoothly. Praise the Lord!

  • Rebecca

    YAY! Whitney–so happy for you guys. You’re in my prayers.


  • Very glad you found someone! Fantastic news!