I am so unbelievably frustrated with doctors and healthcare right now.
Why is that that “healthcare” after a miscarriage only adds to the pain instead of helping?
I miscarried last Monday. I called my doctor’s office — I don’t actually have a doctor any more since she moved several months ago. And, the practice never even sent a letter to notify patients. Anyway, I asked for a doctor I used to see. They told me do a beta in two weeks and come in for an ultrasound in 4 weeks. Everything was what I’d consider normal for the rest of the week — about what I would expect.
Then, over the weekend, I had several episodes of extreme pain, heavy cramping and clotting. Everything goes back to normal in between and then it just randomly happens again.
This isn’t normal for me. I’m sure most people wouldn’t have any clue what a “normal” miscarriage for them would be, but sadly with this being my 5th, I do.
I decided that I should be seen immediately to make sure everything is ok and that all products of conception are gone. I called my doctor’s office and they were not able to work me in to be seen any time soon and finally their best offer was to be seen four days later by a nurse practicioner. I told them this is not routine and I am having problems. No sympathy, no favors, nothing. I told them to forget it. I could have asked to speak to the nurse, but I’m so frustrated with them that I decided to call the next doctor on my list. I called my local RE’s office, and while they were sympathetic and trying to help, the doctor is out of town. And, his on-call doctor can’t do ultrasounds?!?! So, they told me to go to the ER if it happens again.
So, I decided to call a brand new doctor that two friends recommended and see if I could be seen by him. I wasn’t able to get an appointment until a week from now, but I made it just so I’ll be an established patient with him. Because I’m absolutely firing my current practice. (For numerous reasons…today was just the last straw and the motivation I needed to move on.)
But for now, I don’t know what to do. Just wait and hope it gets better? Or try to find yet another doctor? Go to the ER?
I could go to my primary RE’s office that’s 2 hours away, but really why should I have to travel 4 hours round-trip and take a day off from work for a simple visit? No.
This is absolutely ridiculous! Why are complications with a miscarriage not important? Why do I have to beg and plead to be seen? I have made immediate, same-day appointments with my doctor’s office for routine issues. Why isn’t this a priority to them? Maybe I should call back and say I have UTI…maybe that would warrant an immediate appointment, whereas this doesn’t. Why can’t they work me in? Why can’t I get an appt before four days later with a practice of a gazillion doctors? Well, the answer is because they suck! And, I won’t be setting foot in there again.
Also, having to call multiple people for an appointment and having to explain why is taking my otherwise “ok” emotional state and turning it upside down.
I am tired of having to fight for every little thing. It just makes me so angry! Angry for me. Angry for others that don’t know what they need and are going through this. Angry for those that aren’t outspoken like me and just go along with what these stupid offices tell them to do. Just angry! Dealing with miscarrying is enough, but to have to jump through hoops to be checked out is just a slap in the face. This is what their actions tell me: nobody cares about you, this is unimportant, it’s not a big deal.
It’s not right. It’s not fair. But, this is the way it is.
Oh, but they’ll be hearing from me. I won’t go quietly.