I have been pretty patient throughout this whole surrogacy process, especially since it has been ongoing since August 2012. The things that matter are going well and I’m thankful for that.
But…it’s frustrating as hell at times!
We have completed the legal agreement and all of us have approved it. My attorney drafted the agreement, then I reviewed it and we made several rounds of changes. Then, my surrogate reviewed it and she and her husband approved it as is. Now, we just need to sign it.
So, now we get the legal bill for her attorney and it’s $1200. He did nothing! Literally. He didn’t talk to her, advise her, make changes. And, now we have to pay $1200?!?! It’s not right. Things are starting to get really expensive up in here and paying $1200 for anything is rough. But, when you are paying for NO services rendered, it just plain sucks. We just don’t have money to give away and if we did, I’d find a worthy cause and not give it to some I-don’t-know-how-you-sleep-at-night-attorney.
Also, our pre-IVF testing /clinic add-on fee is now going to cost us FOUR times more than I was expecting to the tune of $2350. The additional amount is for administrative costs. Super!
$3500 just evaporated today for…paperwork. Actually, let’s just say paper because there’s really no work. Gone. Just like that.
And, this is just a tiny portion of what we have spent and will spend when it’s all said and done.
Sometimes, I wonder, what the hell are we doing? Will this ever be worth it? The answer is we don’t know. We are only buying a CHANCE to have a baby. We are not buying a guarantee that we will have a baby.
I’m just angry. I’m allowed to have a bad day, right?
On a positive note, our surrogate is so amazing and so sweet. I know we are lucky, but I’m having one of those days where I just want to be the girl that just gets pregnant. No infectious disease testing. No personality tests. No legal agreements. No hysterosalpinograms. No injections. No waiting seven years. No spending $55,000. It’s just not fair.
For the most part, I have accepted this. But, today not so much.