Infertility, Our Infertility story

Perspective

August 30, 2011

Throughout this journey, my perspective keeps changing.

It’s so bizarre how things have changed and my expectations have been lowered time and again. It’s just not something I could have ever imagined.

  1. First, I wanted to be that girl who got conceived at the drop of a hat.
  2. Then, I wanted to be the one to get pregnant after trying for 1-2 years on our own.
  3. Then, I wanted to conceive with IVF.
  4. Then, I desperately hoped to be one of those lucky few in my situation who finally conceived after years of IVFs and multiple miscarriages.
  5. Now, I wish we had a surrogate.  Or, that we were a “waiting family” for adoption.

My perspective has certainly changed along the way.

In the beginning, we wanted a biological child conceived in a natural way.  That scenario couldn’t have possibly changed any more drastically.

Now, we just want a child.  Period.  We are open to any way to get there.  We may not be able to direct the wind…but we are certainly trying to adjust the sails.

 

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  • Kelly

    (((HUGS))) I want that for you, too.

  • Jess

    Hang in there, I totally remember this stage. One foot in front of the other. (And now I am jealous of people matched more quickly than us, so it’s always something…)

    You are a strong person to be able to direct the sails, and admit when “enough is enough…”

    Resharing a quote here:

    “May the love hidden deep inside your heart find the love waiting in your dreams. May the laughter that you find in your tomorrow wipe away the pain you find in your yesterdays.”- Unknown

    Hugs!

  • Thinking of you. It’s amazing how things change in our journey…

  • What an amazing journey! Best wishes to you and here’s hoping you can find a way. Hugs.

  • I love how you are open to finding a way. You will be a wonderful mom!!

  • Beautifully said.

    I never thought I would get to the point where the desire to have a child overwhelmed the desire to have a genetic child, but when that happened, I felt exactly like you’ve described here. Freeing myself of everything I had imagined opened my heart up to so many other ways to become a parent. I truly believe that is making me a better person, and hopefully, a good mother.

    Your child is going to be so so so lucky to have such a wonderful mom! xoxo

  • And I truly hope you guys get there soon.

  • I totally get this perspective… Mine has changed a bunch over time too… Big hugs. Hope you get there soon, and me too.