Our Infertility story, Pregnancy, Surrogacy

Our surrogate is…

March 20, 2013


I always feel hesitant to say this. I have a personal vendetta against that word and I always found it hard to say “I am pregnant” even when I was. I felt like such an imposter.

But, now, it’s a little easier to say “Nicole is pregnant,” or “We are pregnant.”  But, I still find myself saying we had positive tests or we are “technically” pregnant.  I am so happy and encouraged, and yet it’s hard to adjust to that emotionally after what we’ve been through.  So, I’ve been hesitant to share this news.

After our transfer, Nicole took a home pregnancy test at 5dp5dt, which is 5 days past our 5 day transfer.  She got a positive, which was wildly encouraging since that it so early to get a positive! We were ecstatic and especially surprised with good news so early, before I really had a chance to get nervous before our official test, which was scheduled for 12 days past the transfer.  Normally it would be 10 days, but the 10th day fell on a Saturday, so we would have had to wait.

Then a few days later, at 8 days past the transfer, she got a nice dark line.

After these positive tests, we were allowed to move our beta test (the official test) up to 9 days past the transfer, which is one day earlier than typical day.


Our first beta was 393, which is a fantastic number, especially for one day early.


Our second beta three days later at 12 days past transfer was 1823!  It needed to double every 48 hours and it way more than did that.  We feel confident and lucky with these numbers. We had to wait all day to get the results and I went nuts in nervous anticipation.


Our next step is to have the first ultrasound on April 1, 2013.  We will go to Norfolk and we are excited to spend some time with Nicole and her family.

I wish I could be more calm about the whole thing, but after five miscarriages, it’s hard. Even though everything is going great, it’s hard to keep doubt and fear from creeping back in, but I’m really working on enjoying the moment and trusting in God.  Also, things are different this time –we are using a surrogate and we have normal genetic-tested embryos.  That’s what I keep telling myself, over and over.

We praise God that she is pregnant and we are continually praying for a healthy and growing baby or babies.

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  • Nataly

    Dear Whitney, I am very-very-very happy for all of you! I know it is scary to be positive, but let it flow on a happy wave. Constantly thinking of you…

    • Whitney Anderson

      Thank you, Nataly! 🙂

  • So happy for your news and I definitely understand how difficult it can be to stop worrying when you’ve had multiple losses. Praying for a healthy baby and surrogate mama!

    • Whitney Anderson

      Thanks, Kristi!

  • Staci

    I dont know you but stalk your blog and have been thinking/praying for you! I am soo incredibly happy for you and I will continue praying for you and your baby(ies). CONGRATULATIONS!

    • Whitney Anderson

      Thank you so much for your prayers. That is so sweet. 🙂

  • Emily

    I’ve been following your blog for a while now–and I’m really happy for you guys. Best wishes.

    • Whitney Anderson

      Thank you, Emily! 🙂

  • What great and incredible news! Those numbers and lines look very very promising! I truly hope this is it for you guys! Also, twins, maybe?

    • Whitney Anderson

      Thanks so much, Christina! We hope so!

  • Maribeth

    This is great news!!! (and I’ve been stalking your blog looking for the news but figured you might wait a bit:) Hope things continue to go well and that you’ll have some peace about the whole thing.

    • Whitney Anderson

      Hi Maribeth. Thank you! 🙂

  • Marijke

    Yay!!! May God bless you and your husband with your heart’s desire.

    • Whitney Anderson

      Thank you! Very sweet of you.

  • Heather

    OMG CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!! SO happy for you!!! I know its hard to be calm when you’ve gone through everything that you have, but it sounds like you are appreciating this moment, it was hard won.

    • Whitney Anderson

      Thank you, Heather!

  • Jessica

    Congratulations!!! And let me make a prediction that there’s twins in there!! So happy for you guys!!

    • Whitney Anderson

      Fingers crossed!

  • Congrats Whitney! I was one of the many women on the infertility forums we both belonged to. I’ve been following your journey and I couldn’t be happier for you. I’ll be praying for a healthy pregnancy! Those numbers sound like my numbers when I was pregnant with my twins 🙂

    • Whitney Anderson

      Oh, wow! Well, hello! What was your name on there? (If you can share) Thank you so much for your prayers! 🙂

  • Jodi

    I’ve been following your blog and I had 4 miscarriages and now have 8 month old boy and girl twins. Those are twin numbers!

  • Aspgriswold

    So awesome!! My BETA at 9dp5dt was 277 and at 12dp5dt it was 1,241. We are now 21.5w with twins. I’m betting Nicole has two babies in there!! Sending many thoughts for your first ultrasound!

  • Angelica

    Wow, from 393 to 1823! That is music to my ears!!!!!!!! Congrats, congrats on such great numbers.

  • Cassie Linn

    I’m a loving mum of 4 healthy kids. I seem to have a knack for getting pregnant lol. I love it and being a mom! I am a private care nurse for a lovely elderly couple with Alzheimer’s and some family joked that I’m so good at it, I should do it professionally. After a good laugh, I am seriously considering this. I don’t necessarily need the money, even tho it wouldn’t hurt 😂 But I would love to help fellow parents find there purpose aswell! I started searching and they all advertise this huge pay check 50-60 thousand. I thought wow, what about the pre-parents that don’t have 50k laying around? They deserve to suffer by the hands of these kids too 😂 So here I am, putting myself out here. I am 35, in decent shape, honest and giving. My kids and I live in a 4 bedroom home in San Diego. My oldest is 18 and my youngest is 6 and I have full coverage health insurance. If you know of or are interested in meeting my family and I to see if this could work, please email me cassielinn28@icloud.com