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I strongly dislike GYN offices

April 3, 2012

Why is that every time I call or visit my gynecologist’s office, I end up in tears?  Usually mad, angry tears.

Can’t these people be a little more sensitive? Can’t they read charts?  Can’t they agree to see me when I am in pain?

The answer to all of these questions, evidently, is no.  It doesn’t seem to be too much to ask, but I always have the worst experiences.

Take today, for example, I was having some pain and suspected a cyst. I’ve been having this pain for while, off and on.  I tried to get it checked out one time before at my new doctor’s office, but when I called, they said, “You have your yearly in one week, so we’ll just see you then.”  I wasn’t thrilled, but thought, ok whatever.  So, I went in for my yearly exam, and they were going to send me to ultrasound after the exam to have this checked.  Except they left me there sitting for one hour after having already been there for one and a half hours.  I had things to do at work, so I had to leave.  So, never got checked and have just been living with it.

Today, I decided enough was enough as I’ve been having pain and I wanted them to see me, you know, when I’m in pain.  I called my new doctor’s office again. She asked me what was going on and I told her.  Then, she says…drumroll, please….”Are you pregnant?”  Um, no. Let’s see, that’s probably on the top 5 questions of things not to ask the infertile girl when she calls.  I wanted to say, “Are you serious? Am I pregnant?  Check the darn chart,”  but instead I just said, “No.”  So, she checks and says they could not see me today.  Not even tomorrow.  It would be two days before I could be seen, not just by my doctor, but by anyone.  I declined that appointment and told them I’d make do elsewhere. I then called my old doctor’s office and they forwarded my call to a nurse.  She got my name and then said, “You’re pregnant.”  I thought to myself “here we go again” and just said, “No.”  She said, “Oh, when did you deliver?”  And, literally my heart sank. Is this really happening? I managed to say, “I didn’t.”  I think she got it and the questions ceased.  But, at least I got an appointment for 45 minutes later.

Do people ever read charts?  What the hell is the purpose of them if they don’t use them?  They don’t remember the day that they told me there was no heartbeat, but I sure do.

And, they don’t remember that I called to tell them I had miscarried, was having a hard time and wanted to be checked out.  No, they wouldn’t see me then either.  They could work me four days later.  WHAT?!?!?! I’m in the process of miscarrying and and they won’t see me?  I’m kind of experienced in this area and I needed to be seen.  ASAP.  They told me I could go to the ER.  I didn’t want to go to the ER. The last time I went to the ER, I left there in tears feeling worse than when I came in.

So, this was the last straw with that doctor’s office and why I decided to find a new doctor.  And, let’s just say the new office is nothing to write home about.

I think healthcare is bad for my health.



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  • Ugh, I am SO with you about gyn offices. It took a few tries, but I finally found one where the people aren’t completely incompetent and rude. Hopefully you find one, too. Wishing you lots of luck!

  • So sorry they are so insensitive. 🙁